Caring for yourself is NOT selfish.

I just want to start by saying thank you so much to all of you who have  given me such a positive response to my most recent post (and to the whole of the blog in general!) – it has honestly made me feel like this is something I should carry on doing and the support is really lovely to have. Thank you very much 🙂

Secondly, I am SO sorry it has taken such a long time for me to get this post out – the last week or so has been sooooo hectic.

For this week’s blog post, I want to talk about self-care. In the last few years, I have had to learn a lot about it. This was mainly because I was a serial care giver to others, but not to myself. I’m sure a fair few of you reading this will feel the same about yourselves.

Giving care and attention to certain people who don’t give it back (maybe they don’t know how to – I’m still trying to work this one out) is one of the most wearing things to do. Giving so much to others often leaves you feeling deflated and with little energy to care for yourself.

I am here to tell you this isn’t the way it has to be. Self-care is so important and it is vital for keeping relationships/friendships healthy within your life.

Do you have those friends that always make you explain why you’re not going out/why you’re not doing certain things/why you’re not feeling it? Let me make this very clear – you do not owe ANYONE an explanation for anything. If you’d rather go out with a family member or stay in and have a chilled night, you are completely and utterly allowed to do that. Don’t feel like drinking? Don’t drink. Don’t feel like giving your friends a lift somewhere? Don’t give them the lift. And most importantly, don’t you dare feel guilty for caring for yourself.

By no means am I trying to make anyone anti-social – I just want everyone to understand that you can literally do whatever you like.

I do also understand that this is sometimes easier said than done. If you’re a people-pleaser, it can sometimes be nearly impossible to not put others before yourself. You don’t deserve to suffer. Friendships and relationships are meant to work both ways. If somebody doesn’t want to work hard for your friendship, can you really call them a friend? You deserve better.

So, I am well aware that was a really negative post but I really just wanted to get my point across as this is something that I feel needs to be addressed.

Look after yourself, you completely and utterly deserve it.

Thank you for reading!

Clare xx

P.s Blurt are running a #365DaysofSelfCare campaign and they can provide you with resources so you can learn to care for yourself for a whole year. I’m hoping to start this at some point! Please check it out as they do amazing work – it’s one of my favourite sites at the moment 🙂 x


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